Here I am going to add motivation strategies because motivation is what can get you to the moon and back!
Lesson #1: If you don't want to help yourself nobody can help you! You will always find obstacles, you will always blame something or somebody else, whether it would be your inherited appetite, or inherited laziness, or "sluggish thyroid" , or a nervous breakdown, or your age, or your lack of age...does not matter. However, while astrology says that some things may be pre-determined, it also says that there is a room for free will that can change the course of your life. In other words, there are several scenarios in your life despite your inherited whatever. It is up to YOU which way you will choose! You, my Friend, are an addict! So I have adjusted the 12 steps of the AA program for our little situation here. Please read them and think about them! Take your time! It works!...
The 12 Steps of HA /helpless addicts/ /taken humbly from the actual AA 12-step program/
AA’s 12-Step approach follows a set of guidelines designed as “steps” toward recovery, and members can revisit these steps at any time. The 12 Steps are:9
- We admitted we were powerless over feeling helpless /alcohol in the AA/—that our lives had become unmanageable.
- Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. /I will reiterate on that Power later/
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. /God here does not have a nationality, a religion, or color, or sex orientation/
- Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. /Sit down and look back at your previous doings but honestly without anybody looking over your shoulder/.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
- Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
- Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
- Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
- Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
I love the program, because it puts the power outside of ourselves and gives the impression that somebody better than us will make things happen for us...would you like this somebody better to visit you? I would too!!! But once you start on this road one thing you discover is that better person is nobody else but YOU! God is YOU and you are the one that can make things better for you! One step at a time.
I was invited to an AA meeting by a friend who wanted me to understand the struggle and what people were going through. Having the same problem in my family made it close to my heart. Like the AA people I actually go back quite regularly to read these steps to remind myself that I am the one, and only me who can make the decision to give that power to the better me to help the weaker me! Read it a few more times! It will start making sense in time...
PS. My Blog has more on this topic of motivation